Are you living your life or someone else’s? I see many artistic types and would be entrepreneurs second guess what they should do with their lives. They push away dreams and innovation because other people tell them they can’t or shouldn’t do it. Pretty soon, instead of following their own path they start to live the way other people dictate. Too bad these other people are boring.
From childhood, the well meaning adults around us are steering us into pre determined roles. We are the good girl, the nerdy boy, the best brother, quiet sister or athletic child. In some ways this is their job. They need to make sure we don’t run completely wild and live like we were raised by wolves. We’re socialized to be agreeable and appropriate at a very young age. But how does that affect our decision making and choices about what shape our lives should take?
By adulthood, many people are used to pushing away what they want and doing what everyone else agrees on. They ignore their inner artist or entrepreneur. This kind of decision making by committee happens even with simple things. I’ve had people ask me seriously what I think they should eat. You have to wonder if people are happy living with that little input on what they should do. They’re most likely just existing.
I’ve met many people who fit that category. They won’t think about what is best for them or what they’d like to do. They’re hung up on pleasing others and living the life dictated to them. That kind of thinking is the worst when you have artistic or entrepreneurial tendencies. Artists and entrepreneurs tend to need the freedom to create. Both groups do well when we think in a non linear way. Innovation and creativity require you to stay out of dullsville. This is a completely scary and unacceptable way to be for some people. Instead of accepting your artistic, entrepreneurial spirit they try to force their values onto you.
For artists or entrepreneurs we have to be fully committed to living our own truth. Living by the rules everyone has forced on you is the quickest way to kill creativity and vision. Of course I don’t mean go out and break whatever law you feel like. Don’t go robbing that bank in the name of innovation. I’m talking about social rules, codes and expectations. A person walking a path as determined by someone else is usually a miserable one.
There are people around who don’t think that an artistic career or life is a worthy one. There are people that don’t believe in taking a risk on building a business. These people will discourage you and try to tell you what you should do. Naysayers will always tell you to live according to their pessimistic view.
Live your life for you; let go of trying to make everyone get it. Some people will never get it unless you’re doing exactly what they think you should. Instead, wake up everyday and choose what you want.