Sarah and the clones practice an extreme version of self acceptance, but we can all learn from their weird TV life story. Embracing all parts of who you are is important. Sara might be a little tougher than you and a little out of control, but she gets it right most of the time.
1. Acknowledge that Parts of your Personality Seem Contradictory
We all have parts of our personality that we’d like to change, hide, or improve. We definitely have pieces of our personality that seem contradictory. Try combining artistic and entrepreneurial tendencies and see how that works out. Instead of trying to squeeze everything into a box or make it make sense, just accept you in all of your nonsensical glory. You could be the life of the party but also a homebody. You could love attention but have an intense need for privacy. These contradictions make you unique. Don’t worry about your personality not making sense to everyone else, just you.
2. Nurture your Unique Strengths
Cosima is the brainiac. Sarah is the Survivor. Allison is the super planner. They respect these things about each other and split up tasks according to their strengths. The girls don’t beat themselves up for not being more like the other clones, especially not Allison. She thinks she’s the best. No matter who the original clone really is, that person has all of these traits. Each clone expresses those traits in the extreme. Without accepting these traits and talents about each other, their investigation would be a lot harder. It’s the differences they respect that add to the whole team effort. I’m not saying you should be schizophrenic and think of yourself as a whole clone team, but the idea of acknowledging and nurturing your strengths is good for your soul and your psyche.
3. Don’t Worry about Who You “Should” Be
Sarah is a rebel by anyone’s definition. She doesn’t care about the socially accepted roles people want her to fill. Helena is an even more extreme version of a rebel. Sarah allows herself to say what she really thinks. There are a lot of situations where that kind of bluntness can get you into trouble. But Sarah doesn’t beat herself up about what she really thinks or wants. She just lets it ride. Your idea of who you should be can also a subtle rejection of who you are. There is self-improvement and then there is self-denial. Genuinely wanting to improve yourself or working toward an ideal self that you want is great. Just make sure it’s your ideal self and not someone else’s. Don’t try to be who others think you should be. It’s really just a waste of your time.
4. Admit and Accept Your Flaws or (as I like to call them Quirks)
Quirks are what make us human beings. If even scientifically created clones can have flaws, we certainly can. If a perceived flaw is something you really want to change then go for it. But if you don’t, accept that quirk as part of your personality. No one is perfect. If we didn’t have flaws, we would never have conflict and life would be one big snooze fest. Even our bad traits can help us out once in a while. Allison being a control freak and hyper anxious tends to work out for the group. Even Helena’s crazy is worthwhile. Flaws or quirks are just ways of reminding us that we’re unique. And there’s nothing wrong with unique.
5. Believe You are Worthy of Existing
Okay, that sounds corny. But there are people who don’t think they have a place in the world. They think they shouldn’t be here. You don’t have to be perfect, super or even amazing to exist. You are good enough. The clones question whether they should exist. They engage in ethical questions and dilemmas surrounding their creation. Even through that questioning, each one feels that they have a purpose. They feel worthy enough to exist no matter how many new ‘sisters’ they meet or questions they have to answer. Think about it. You’re worthy of existing just as much as a TV clone.